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How to Live Out Proverbs 31 in 2019

August 21, 2019

Proverbs 31, verses 10-31 tell about a woman which the Bible describes as “the woman who fears the Lord.” These verses are often referenced when talking about expectations for behavior of women of faith and are often viewed as something worth working toward.

Some people read Proverbs 31 and get overwhelmed by what it says because the woman described isn’t often what we see in today’s culture. It can be easy to get caught up in comparison wondering how you will ever reach this status or goal in your own life so I wanted to take a minute to unpack the scriptures together and kind of think about what would this look like now in 2019.

Notice first that the woman in Proverbs 31 is married. It says in verse 10 “an excellent wife who can find? She is worth far more precious than jewels.” Then continues on to describe what an excellent wife is like. If you’re single, or dating, or even engaged, it’s really hard to live this out. Your life definitely changes after you get married because your responsibilities change as two become one (Gen 2:24, Eph 5:31, Matt 19:5, Mark 10:8). So if you’re reading this and you’re finding it overwhelming as a single person then just please be patient and know to reference these verses as you enter into marriage.

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The Proverbs 31 wife is trusting, hard-working, strong, generous, innovative, kind, and wise. She is a well-rounded woman focused on putting God first in her own life and then letting that influence her marriage, family, and other relationships.

The Proverbs 31 Woman is a Provider

She seeks out what is good for her household and makes sure her family never goes hungry or lacks clothing to wear. She cooks, she cleans, she makes sure everyone has what they need to succeed. She is really like any wife and mother we see today. These responsibilities haven’t changed all that much over time. She is a homemaker and helps to make her home a sanctuary for her husband. I do my best to do this in my own home. I know that my husband feels so much better when he comes home to a clean space and can relax. I also know how good it makes him feel to provide food for him, even if it’s as simple as packing his lunch for work or making dinner that we had to cook anyway. It doesn’t have to be a fancy Pinterest meal to make our husbands feel like they are blessed. It can be as simple as a peanut butter and jelly sandwich. If you made it for him, it will make him feel like the most blessed man in the world.

The Proverbs 31 Woman is Hard-working and Entrepreneurial.

Wait, what? Yes, you heard me. She is innovative and does what she can to help provide for her household. In verses 16 and 18 it says “she considers a field and buys it; with the fruit of her hands she plants a vineyard… She perceives that her merchandise is profitable. Her lamp does not go out at night” and in verse 24 it says “she makes linen garments and sells them; she delivers sashes to the merchant”. Many people often think that the role of the Proverbs 31 woman ended with homemaking. And most people think of homemaking as something outdated and less glorifying than work, especially now where two or more incomes are so necessary to comfortably run a household and the “boss babe” movement has reached an all time high. You can in fact work to help provide for your household. This woman was creative and smart! We don’t have to sit back and let our gifts and talents go to waste, we as wives can do what we can to provide what we need. In the home, as well as outside of the home. A wife is often the first member in the house to wake up in the morning and the last to go to bed. So go ahead and start up that Etsy shop, go open that store, go grow your community online and influence others for the glory of God. Go to your work and do what you are passionate about! Use the gifts that the Lord has already given you and allow yourself to work for your family without feeling guilty. You, as a human being, were designed to work.

The Proverbs 31 Woman is Generous

Verse 20 says “she opens her hand to the poor and reaches out to the needy”. If hospitality is your spiritual gift then this will come naturally to you. If not, the Lord calls for us to be generous, and the Proverbs 31 woman is a great example of living this out. When you see someone in need, offer what you can to help them, offer your time, finances, make them a meal. Generosity takes many forms but it is one of the best ways to glorify God. In Matthew 25:40, Jesus said “whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers and sisters of mine, you did for me.” When you are giving to the needy, you are giving to the Lord.

The Proverbs 31 Woman is Strong

“She dresses herself with strength and makes her arms strong” (verse 17). Strength can be interpreted in many ways but I think it’s so interesting that this is how she is described. For many, many years, women have been looked upon as the weaker sex. But the Bible says that an excellent wife is strong. I feel like this meant both physically and emotionally. A wife has to be strong for her household because when trouble comes, she has to be the safe place. She is the one her children run to when they are hurt and the one her husband confides in after a rough day at work. The wife is strong after spending hours lugging groceries and car–seats and laundry all over the house and to and from activities. She is strong when she faces persecution from others who don’t understand the life they lead. The wife is a pillar in the household, next to her husband of course.

An excellent wife takes care of herself so that she can properly take care of her family. She is mindful of what goes in and on her body. She is proactive in taking care of herself with diet and exercise so that she is in good health for her family. An excellent wife isn’t viewed as weak in the family, she is strong and mighty.

The Proverbs 31 Woman is Kind and Wise

Verses 25-26 say “Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she laughs at the time to come. She opens her mouth with wisdom and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.” So not only is she strong, but she is wise. She teaches others to be kind and selfless. Who better to learn from than from a woman who has experienced life herself. Titus 2 commands that “Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled. The Proverbs 31 woman uses her own life as an example, living out the Gospel in her household so that younger women might be able to look to her for teaching and advice when they experience trouble in their own households. Knowing how she was able to conquer such battles makes it easier to conquer it themselves.

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There are so many examples of amazing women in the Bible and the Proverbs 31 woman is just one of them. I love the way she respects her husband and how in the end of the chapter we read that “her children call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: “Many women have done excellently, but you surpass them all.”” The way he sees his wife is honestly how any woman wants to be viewed by her husband. We want our husbands to see us as the best of the best and to feel blessed. At least, I know that’s what I want.

I do my best to live this out. I know I work hard during the week both as a nanny and also with this blog. My ministry definitely is for a bigger purpose and I love that I get to influence so many people doing the work I do. Honestly, it really is a blessing that I don’t take for granted. I love that I can do my part to make life comfortable for us and that I can make our home a safe haven. I love that I am mindful to cook my husband healthy meals so that he can stay healthy and motivated to do what he needs to provide for our family. I try my best to live by the example set in Proverbs 31. I most certainly stumble at times, but I always know where to refer to get myself back on track.

Does the woman in Proverbs 31 intimidate you or motivate you?

Much Love,

Caylee

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  1. Lina says

    August 27, 2019 at 4:19 pm

    I found this blog post so inspirational! it motivated me so much, it encourages me to be an ENTREPRENEUR woman and keep moving forward

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    • Caylee says

      August 27, 2019 at 4:20 pm

      Yes! Often times people think we’re just supposed to be homemakers but God created so many of us to be much more than that!

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  2. Stephanie says

    August 27, 2019 at 6:10 pm

    Can I just get some major applause going right now? This post is what’s up! When my mom was pregnant with me (I was a rainbow baby), she embroidered Proverbs 31 onto what was basically a canvas, and hung it in our home. Growing up, it was always hung above the piano, or a lounge chair, or just … nearby. And I felt pressure. Pressure to be that woman, to be more like my mom, and as I entered my 20’s and then got married, I felt it even more – but in a different way, since I wasn’t sure how it still applied. REading this was incredible, encouraging, and so – exciting! Thank you for this.

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    • Caylee says

      August 27, 2019 at 7:09 pm

      What an amazing story! I’m so glad you found this encouraging ❤️

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  3. Kelsey Albert says

    March 20, 2021 at 2:34 pm

    Yes, there is so much to the Proverbs 31 women – so much that I want to grow into and be every day! It’s a journey and I am so thankful we have this to remind us what we are stiving towards!

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  4. Shayla says

    March 20, 2021 at 8:43 pm

    I could not agree with this beautiful and truthful post more! I’m so glad I found your lovely blog. These have been so many of my thoughts about the proverbs 31 woman too.

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  5. elizabeth says

    March 21, 2021 at 3:18 pm

    First of all, this post was written on my daughter’s first birthday!! I just lvoe that! Secondly, so much of this flows out of our relationship with the lord. It is more of a descrption of a women who listens and follows the lord than a to-do list. When I realized that I will never be enough on my own but christ is always more than enough and can use me to meet the needsof those around me if I seek him first and let him multiply the fish + loaves through me, what overflows is this!

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    • Caylee says

      March 28, 2021 at 10:45 am

      I love that! Also super cool that This posted on your daughter’s birthday!!

      Reply

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Meet Caylee

Hey there, I’m Caylee! I am 28 years old, been married for 4 years, mama to a sweet and adventurous toddler, expecting little brother in May 2022. I started blogging in January 2017 and this blog has grown with me as I go through big life changes and spiritual change. After an early pregnancy loss in April 2021, I took an unexpected break from blogging and this site is currently in a season of transition as I rely on God to show me what to do with it next. I pray this blog is a way to spread the word of the coolest guy I know, Jesus Christ, with the world around me and to have authentic conversations about maturing in Christ, marriage, and motherhood as intentional Christian women.

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