Deeper Than Romance

Hello! My name is Kristin and I am the person behind the blog The Tiny Red Tornado.

Caylee asked me if I would/wanted to do a guest blog post for her and, naturally, I was beyond excited! She then asked me if I could write a post about relationships. I have to admit I was super flattered, but also puzzled. Truthfully, I am 26 years old and single. She is the one with the successful marriage and younger than I am!

We hear the word relationship and we immediately think of our significant other, or lack thereof.Click To Tweet

Although I wasn’t entirely sure what I could bring to the table on the topic I started brainstorming. When brainstorming didn’t work and all else failed I started wondering how I even met Caylee. It has been so many years since we first met and we have lived so many different versions of ourselves since then. That is how this post finally came together!

I actually met Caylee through my first real relationship. She was dating the best friend of my first love and we bonded instantly, creating a relationship with each other that would grow and mold over the years to the relationship we have today. A deep mutual respect and friendship for one another! Then my thought process was abruptly cut short by my extremely perfect nephew screaming for my attention.

I am a first time auntie and I am absolutely head over heels in love with this tiny human. I cannot even describe the kind of love I feel when I see him. It is so different and all encompassing. He could literally do no wrong in my eyes. I would go to unbelievable lengths just to keep him happy and safe. We have this bond with each other that is unlike any relationship I have ever had with anyone else’s child, or anyone else in general. He puts his trust in me every time I babysit him and he lights up when I walk into a room. Which brings me to my entire point.

Relationships are not always romantic. Sometimes the deepest relationships that we have are with the people surrounding our lives every single day. I truly believe we take those relationships for granted. We spend so much of our time worrying about romantic relationships. Will I ever find anyone? Will my boyfriend leave me if I do this? What should my husband and I do tonight? We hear the word relationship and we immediately think of our significant other, or lack thereof. We go in search of love in all the wrong places hoping to find a connection and a relationship we can tell people about. What is wrong with the relationships we have right in front of us?

It is okay that your deepest connection with another person in life right now is your best friend, your mom, your dad, your sibling, or even a niece and nephew. The most important relationship in my life right now is the one I share with my nephew. I spend 8 hours with him every other Wednesday. Playing, adventuring, learning, and napping; definitely napping. He spends as much time teaching me about myself as I do teaching him about the world around him. My connection and relationship with him has taught me an incredible amount of things about myself. It has made me more self assured, self aware, and self confident. All things that I can honestly say my past romantic relationships did not make me feel. My relationship with my nephew has definitely changed my life in a grand, and better, way.

So, the next time you are wondering where your prince charming is, try watering the grass on the relationships you have right in front of you. Let those relationships guide you to who you really are. Once you are comfortable in the relationships you already have and comfortable with the relationship you have with yourself the rest will fall into place!

So, the next time you are wondering where your prince charming is, try watering the grass on the relationships you have right in front of you.Click To Tweet